Radiant Living Blog

Do You Want to Experience THIS More Than You Want the Fear? Oct 13, 2021

Even if it means you may fail? Sometimes having the experience over fear is worth it.

If you say a resounding yes, you’re ready for your metaphoric firewalk.

Especially when you’re considering taking action, making changes, and even taking risks to live more the life you want to...

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Why I Don’t Have Cerebral Palsy Oct 06, 2021

Happy World CP Day!

Why I Don’t Have Cerebral Palsy

You think I’m delusional, don’t you? Especially if you’ve seen my Facebook Live Videos, you’re thinking, “Honey, if you don’t have Cerebral Palsy (CP), I don’t know who does…”

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How to Write a Dating Profile and Disclose Your Disability Sep 29, 2021

In a few weeks, the first episode of the Dating, Relationships, and Disability podcast will be available. I’m very excited to be working on bringing a show together that offers strategies, encouragement, and mindset tips on dating with a disability. Episodes feature guidance and practical...

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Dating with Disability: Choose Your Dreams Over Sexual Ableism Sep 08, 2021

Am I choosing my dreams, rather than buying into sexual ableism?” Ask yourself this if you’re not having success in dating with a disability.

You may not like that question and even be a little offended by it.

But sometimes those harder questions and more specifically, the...

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Healing Body Shame and Dating With A Disability Sep 01, 2021

Body shame is one of the hardest things that impacts dating with a disability. People really don’t like to talk about it.

There’s a particular type of body shame for people with disabilities. It involves feeling negative about yourself that is then connected to shame about how your...

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Why the Reality of How Hard Dating with Disability Can Be Helpful Aug 04, 2021

People on social media and the Confidently Dating with Disability Facebook group say frequently how hard dating with a disability can be.

There’s no sugarcoating it. Sexual ableism is alive and well with judgments, fear, narrow-mindedness, and archaic beliefs about disabilities.

When...

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The Fallacy of Sexual Ableism and the Five Steps to Overcome It Jun 23, 2021

“So how are you doing with me having a disability?” I asked my date this bold question after we ordered dessert. I have never been this bold. In this dating moment, I knew that if I didn’t ask it, sexual ableism would seize the moment and I would probably never see him again.

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Five Beliefs to Increase Your Dating Confidence Apr 21, 2021

Dating confidence comes down to what you believe about yourself and your potential as a partner. As with most things in life, it’s about your mindset.

No one can tell you what to believe. That’s up to you. There are five types of beliefs that will help you feel more positive and...

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The Biggest Dating Fears When You Have a Disability Mar 24, 2021

In this survey that anyone with a disability can take, people share their biggest dating fears. Many of these concerns keep people with disabilities feeling too intimidated to date and pursue relationships.

Here are some of the things they say:

  • I fear I’ll be rejected.
  • I don’t have...
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People Staring at Your Disability? Here’s What To Do Oct 27, 2020

Staring at your disability, as though to say “What’s wrong with you?” can affect your confidence. There is one simple thing you can do to respond and six things to remember when you feel your confidence waning.

Smile, yes, just smile at the starer. That’s the one simple...

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Confronting and Transforming Sexual Ableism Jul 16, 2020

Looking at the issue of ongoing ableism in our culture as we celebrate the 30th anniversary of the Americans with Disabilities Act, where does sexual ableism work into the discussion?

Sexual ableism is a system of beliefs that discriminate against people with disabilities in dating, intimacy, and...

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Ableism: Resistance to Yep, It’s Definitely There Jul 01, 2020

This is hard to admit and I even feel shame about it, but for many years I, yes, me, cerebral palsy, disability advocate, distanced myself from talking about ableism.

Okay, I would do more than that. I would do that inner eye roll thing when someone brought it up. I really hate admitting this...

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