In the next couple of months, I will be launching a new website with several new messages about the work I do. The website will include ideas to motivate and encourage people with disabilities to live their lives fully. Throughout the summer I will be writing posts that will offer enticing (hopefully!) previews of the new site.
Today let me begin with embracing.
Embracing is one of those words that we commonly use, but by examining the meaning behind the word, we are provided with a completely new value and appreciation of it. Embracing, a beautiful word in itself, is very underused in our vocabulary. People forget to embrace one another, their blessings, as well as their difficulties.
Embracing means that we hold something dear to our hearts. In the act of embracing, we accept something or someone willingly into our lives. The act of embracing is wonderful because in doing so; all dimensions of something become part of ourselves, part of our essence. Many people believe that to embrace something, particularly a difficulty, means that you succumb to its control over you.
On the contrary, it implies that you surround something, your sense of power and spirit is so great you can incorporate it into your life, rather than having it be a dominating factor in your life. Embracing means that we hold something dear to our hearts. To embrace means we encompass and include into our lives.
When we welcomed something into our lives, whether it is good or bad, easy or challenging, likable or loathsome, we are embracing it and no longer struggling against it. We may continue to struggle with its effects, but we are no longer using the majority of our energy to deny its existence and influence in our lives.
One of the keys to my personal success is that at some point – I can’t tell you when, it just evolved over time – I realized I had embraced having cerebral palsy. I claimed it as an integral part of who I was and something that gave me value. In embracing CP, I found freedom. Freedom to be and appreciate all of who I am. I also found strengths and abilities in me that I wasn’t looking at in my attempts to overcome CP. In my opinion, one does not overcome a disability; one learns to live fully with it.
By the way, embracing is not just for disabilities. Any circumstance in your life you cannot change can be embraced. Just imagine what you would discover about yourself if you did!