This feels very vulnerable and I have to write about it anyway.

I’m clearly not meeting your needs and/or sending a message that leaves you saying, “Yes, you got me and I want more.”

Now, I’m turning the tables and asking you for feedback that I desperately (I really did use that word) need.

What Went Wrong?

If you’re a frequent reader, you know that for the past few weeks I’ve been promoting my online course Dating, Relationships, and Disability: How to Have Confidence and Succeed, which teaches about self-esteem, confidence, and positive approaches for dating success with a disability.

I offered free trainings, discounts, bonuses and what I don’t want to tell you is. . .no one bought.

I’ll be brutally honest and there are very few things EVER that cause me to feel this way, but part of me would like to crawl into the closet with a couple pints of Ben & Jerry’s and have a big pity party.

But that’s not in my DNA. Instead I’m coming to you and asking for your help. I’m obviously not getting SOMETHING BIG about my readers and followers about the dating process and struggle. I don’t just want to know what it is, I NEED to know it, if I’m going to serve you.

Please share your thoughts here.

The Rub

Here’s the funny thing. As I promote the course, I naturally immerse myself in both its material and the vision of how it will change lives. In each promotion, I live and breathe what it’s like to long for love and relationships while wondering if the disability will always prevent that.

With this, I actually become more convicted in what I’m doing – even when I fail.

I review and study the course material. How critical – and difficult – it is to see your value before anyone else does. How you have to find confidence in yourself, even when it feels only like a crumb, to put yourself out there. How you have to develop this unshakable belief in your Power to Attract. And lastly, how you have to value yourself by being selective and finding the right partner for you.

I see and believe wholeheartedly in the difference it makes. Every day I live with the happy results it created in my own life.

Back In The Arena

Failing, not getting it right, wanting to serve and make a difference, and yes, let’s put this on the table while I’m being vulnerable, wanting to get paid for the work I create and put out in the world, leaves me back in this often quoted arena:

It is not the critic that counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.

Teddy Roosevelt’s 1910 “Citizenship in a Republic” speech

Kind of like dating and relationships? Better to put your heart out there, risk it being smashed and stomped on than to die never knowing what happiness your heart could had found.

Please take a few minutes to tell me what I need to know. The first three people to submit responses receive a complimentary copy of the course and a free coaching call with me. You may donate your free copy to anyone you wish. Please complete this brief survey by June 17.

Thank you!