Dating and relationships.
So unfair…when you live with a disability.
And okay, I’m sure some of you reading who don’t live with disabilities are saying, “Hey, when is dating fair to anyone?”
You like how I begin the final blog theme of the year, dating and relationships, in such a positive way?
Well, it actually is positive because it’s acknowledging how darn hard it is to date and find intimate relationships when you live with a disability.
Have to go back to my all time favorite quote here to have my “positivity” make sense.
Life is difficult. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths because once we truly see this truth, we transcend it. Once we know that life is difficult – once we truly understand and accept it – then life is no longer difficult. Because once it is accepted, the fact that life is difficult no longer matters. – M. Scott Peck
Basically, once we admit something is hard, then it becomes easier to engage in whatever the process is. This is VERY TRUE for dating and relationships. It’s hard because the world has yet to really get that people who live with disabilities are sexual beings who want intimacy and companionship just like everyone else.
And once you accept that dating and relationships is a very hard path to pursue when you live with a disability, then so much actually becomes POSSIBLE. That’s because you’re no longer fighting against the fact that it’s hard.
Rather, you’re pursuing your vision.
Yes, you have one, right? A vision for what YOU WANT out of dating and relationships. Whether that’s just meeting interesting people and having a good time or choosing to share your life with one particular person.
You got to have a vision.
You have to have an idea, picture, dream, etc of what you’re going for, of what’s going to bring YOU happiness, love, and joy.
Then pursue it with reckless abandon.
That’s how we get the life we want.
I’m here to help with everything dating and relationships for the next few months.