People Staring at Your Disability? Here’s What To Do

confidence builders how others react Oct 27, 2020
Young boy standing in street looking troubled: Message - People staring at your disability? Here's what to do

Staring at your disability, as though to say “What’s wrong with you?” can affect your confidence. There is one simple thing you can do to respond and six things to remember when you feel your confidence waning.

Smile, yes, just smile at the starer. That’s the one simple thing to do. Your smile humanizes the moment. It also acknowledges to the person that you notice what they’re doing and that you’re approachable.

Staring at Disability: What to Remember

To shore up that confidence of yours, keep in mind these things:

  1. People are curious by nature. Chances are your disability ignites curiosity, not malevolence.
  2. It’s human nature to judge, whether people do it consciously or unconsciously. You cannot control this and to do so, would leave you exhausted.
  3. When people judge you, place your focus on what you know is true about you. This is the only thing you can control when others are judging you.
  4. By focusing your attention on your truth, not others’ opinions of you, you’re going to be more centered on your abilities, strengths, and gifts. When you do this, a magical dynamic begins to occur that leads to #5.
  5. Placing attention on your positive attributes boosts confidence and as your confidence increases, others begin to transform their judgments of you. This is because they pick up on your positivity and good energy.
  6. Most of all remember, you’re here in this world, in your body, with your mind, possessing the abilities you have, for a reason. The world and every room you enter need your presence.

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Editor’s Note: The contents of this post were first published in the LIFEPLAN CCO newsletter on October 20, 2020.

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