196 - Dating with a Visible Difference
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Dorsey Ross from Westchester, PA has Apert syndrome, a birth defect affecting his hands and face. He's undergone 68 operations throughout his lifetime and hosts "The Dorsey Ross Show" podcast. His motto: "can't" is not in his vocabulary.
Dating Challenges
Dorsey has never had a serious dating relationship beyond high school. He believes people are resistant to dating someone with a disability due to concerns about social judgment and health implications. He's tried online dating and meeting people through friends but struggled with fear of rejection.
What He Values in Relationships
He wants someone who will love him for who he is and appreciate the value he brings—his smile, personality, and activities. He seeks authentic connections where partners support each other through good times and bad, showing genuine engagement and care.
Overcoming Fear and Building Confidence
Dorsey admits being afraid to pursue relationships due to fear of rejection and losing friendships. Kathy coaches him to take chances even without knowing someone's feelings, suggesting he assume positive rather than negative outcomes.
Dealing with Public Reactions
Partners would need to understand that people might stare or make inappropriate comments when they're together. Dorsey advises focusing on supportive people rather than negative reactions and being confident despite judgment.
Advice for Others
For people with visible differences: be confident in your personality and what you offer. Don't worry about others' judgments. He encourages introducing yourself to new people and reminds listeners with disabilities that they're not alone in seeking relationships.
Connect with Dorsey on Instagram
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