199 - The Power of the Let Them Theory in Dating
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Let Them Reveal Their True Character
Stop managing others' comfort with your disability. Let potential partners show who they are through authentic reactions. If someone is uncomfortable, dismissive, or makes thoughtless comments, let them reveal this incompatibility while you preserve energy for those who demonstrate genuine acceptance.
Let Them Miss Out on Your Worth
Rather than convincing others of your value, let people operate from their limited perspectives while you cultivate unshakeable self-worth. When someone can't see past disability to recognize your full humanity, let them reveal their narrow worldview while you focus on building genuine confidence.
Let Them Handle Their Own Discomfort
Instead of rushing to make others comfortable around disability, let them sit with their awkwardness. Allow people to voice concerns, ask questions, and learn to navigate difference rather than managing their emotional state. This reveals who can grow versus who expects you to minimize yourself.
Let Them Show Growth Capacity
Stop micromanaging others' learning about disability and accessibility. Let potential partners demonstrate initiative in understanding your needs, researching adaptive equipment, and creating inclusive environments. You'll quickly see who has genuine interest versus who expects you to do all emotional labor.
Let Them Make Intimacy Decisions
Don't overcompensate to prove your sexuality or relationship readiness. Let people express their actual thoughts about disabled people's intimate lives so you can address misconceptions directly or recognize incompatibility.
Let Them Exit When Unready
If someone isn't equipped for a relationship including disability considerations, let them remove themselves rather than minimizing your needs. This creates space for people genuinely ready for authentic partnership.
Focus on Your Own Goals
Redirect energy from controlling others' perceptions toward your own growth, communication skills, and relationship values.
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