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How to Write a Dating Profile and Disclose Your Disability Sep 29, 2021

In a few weeks, the first episode of the Dating, Relationships, and Disability podcast will be available. I’m very excited to be working on bringing a show together that offers strategies, encouragement, and mindset tips on dating with a disability. Episodes feature guidance and practical...

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Dating with Disability: Choose Your Dreams Over Sexual Ableism Sep 08, 2021

Am I choosing my dreams, rather than buying into sexual ableism?” Ask yourself this if you’re not having success in dating with a disability.

You may not like that question and even be a little offended by it.

But sometimes those harder questions and more specifically, the...

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Healing Body Shame and Dating With A Disability Sep 01, 2021

Body shame is one of the hardest things that impacts dating with a disability. People really don’t like to talk about it.

There’s a particular type of body shame for people with disabilities. It involves feeling negative about yourself that is then connected to shame about how your...

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Why the Reality of How Hard Dating with Disability Can Be Helpful Aug 04, 2021

People on social media and the Confidently Dating with Disability Facebook group say frequently how hard dating with a disability can be.

There’s no sugarcoating it. Sexual ableism is alive and well with judgments, fear, narrow-mindedness, and archaic beliefs about disabilities.

When...

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The Fallacy of Sexual Ableism and the Five Steps to Overcome It Jun 23, 2021

“So how are you doing with me having a disability?” I asked my date this bold question after we ordered dessert. I have never been this bold. In this dating moment, I knew that if I didn’t ask it, sexual ableism would seize the moment and I would probably never see him again.

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Five Beliefs to Increase Your Dating Confidence Apr 21, 2021

Dating confidence comes down to what you believe about yourself and your potential as a partner. As with most things in life, it’s about your mindset.

No one can tell you what to believe. That’s up to you. There are five types of beliefs that will help you feel more positive and...

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Doubtful Confidence Works? Read This. Aug 06, 2019

Jessica Kramer is back with her most compelling message to date (no pun intended). If you’re looking for a relationship, life with a disability, and maybe are a bit terrified of rejection, keep reading. Hope and encouragement are in store.


My relationship status used to be “its...

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Should I Tell? Nov 28, 2018

Special guest post by Jessica Kramer, a second-year Masters Student in Disability Studies at Syracuse University. If you would like to submit a guest post on living with a disability, please email me at [email protected].


Disclose….Don’t...

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Moments Emblazoned in Our Souls That Change Everything Jun 12, 2017

Have you had those moments in your life in which EVERYTHING CHANGES and more importantly, YOU CHANGE?

They’re often referred to as DEFINING MOMENTS.

They can be the SCARIEST moments we ever experience and afterwards – and probably for the rest of our lives – we are ...

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How To Feel More Attractive With A Disability Apr 05, 2017

I believe that my disability makes me unattractive.

I receive comments like this pretty consistently on the Dating for People with Disabilities survey that I always have available for people to take.

The words continue to hurt with every response I read, not out of pity, but empathy.

I...

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How to Radiate the Power to Attract Feb 18, 2015

It does not matter if you use a wheelchair, drool, or have muscle spasms.

You have the Power to Attract.

The most influential factor that can either promote or hinder one’s healthy sexuality (reading last week’s post on sexuality may help define this for you) is people’s ability...

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